"Leave me alone!"
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If you are an adult child of a parent who wanted, craved and demanded privacy or who abdicated their parental obligations to a nanny or other surrogate and today you have a rocky relationship with that or those parents don't despair. You were trained to give space. You were trained to defer. You were trained to not get involved. You were trained to stay out. Could your reactions now as an adult be that you are riddled with guilt and sadness for how things could have been if only you'd been a better kid to be invited? I will recommend that you let it go. Don't sweat it, move on. But that's tough too. But if you give yourself the gift of remembering that you weren't born to fear or resent or to feel guilt, you will remember that you were conditioned. We are not formed in a vacuum.
But if you are an adult who craves your privacy and your "me" time and all the rest so you can be your creative best self, be careful of what you wish for. You want privacy? You want your things left alone? If you train enough, you just might get it and you'll be left alone. Now no one will disturb you. Ever. So when you're 85 in a rocking chair wondering why no one comes to see you, remember this post. You created this dynamic. And again, if you're the kid of a parent like that: you were trained.